Married Life: Pros and Cons

A big HELLO to the lovely Paige’s readers.  I’m Kayla and I blog over at Mississippi Mrs.  I mostly talk about my day to day life as Brian’s wife and my love for coffee.  I’m a true Southern girl at heart and am so blessed to have met Paige in this wonder land of blogging!  I know you all must agree!

I’m so thankful to Paige for letting me take over her blog today.  I’ve read her blog for such a long time and have gotten to truly feel like Paige is a real friend.  I just wish she lived closer and we could have one of those fancy “blates” that you see all over the blog-land.

Paige told me what I wanted to write was completely up to me, so I knew immediately what I wanted to talk about- Marriage. However, I want to talk about the things most wives do not talk about, openly.

Brian and I are still in the newlywed phase of our marriage so I do not claim to be an “expert” on the whole topic. However, I can tell you what “married life” has been like for me.  And it may surprise you.

First, a little background story on me.  I had been living alone for 5+ years, so sharing was not something I was used to anymore.  When Brian and I got married and I realized I had to share a closet, share a bathroom, share a HOUSE!, I was in for some changes.

This wonderful husband of mine just doesn’t do household things the way I did, and it bothered me. He would leave cups sitting around when he was finished with them.  He would leave dirty dishes in the sink instead of putting them in the empty dishwasher.  He would pile dirty clothes in the floor of the closet instead of putting them in the hamper.  He would leave his shoes in the middle of the floor.

I was going insane.  You see, I’m OCD and I think life is better when things are in THEIR PLACE.  Brian is not “dirty” so please don’t think that’s what I am implying.  He is just a normal guy.  Except he’s NOT.

My “cons” list was getting longer by the day.  Did I question marrying him? Never!  But I did ask God to show me how to change my controlling ways and learn patience and how to adapt as a wife instead of the girlfriend living in her own world.

This leads me to my “pros” list of marriage.  This may sound cliché, but Brian is everything I ever dreamed (and didn’t know I wanted!) in a husband.  He is there when I cry, when I yell, and when I just downright am lost.  He shows me unconditional love and is my biggest fan.  He completes me in ways I can’t even begin to touch on, expect for to tell you it is God working.

I was 29 years old when we married, but I think I still needed to accept things and “grow up.”  Marriage has helped me with so many other aspects of my life.  And I can’t imagine one single day without Brian in my life.  He’s the only guy I’ve never doubted in my life and I can’t wait to grow old with this man of mine, even if he leaves a cup on every table!

No marriage is perfect, and certainly ours isn’t.  But without him, I’d be lost.

Thank you again, Paige, for allowing me to fill in for you today.

———————Aren’t Kayla and Brian just adorable? Just love her outlook on marriage to her sweet hubs. Thank you for sharing Kayla! Make sure to head on over to Mississippi Mrs. to read all about her marriage and follow along on social media while you’re there! Kayla, a blate must be in order soon!